Accepting my mother will never love me the way I wanted!  I wanted to be her best son,  her best friend. I wanted to displace my Dad,  her husband 🤣, my older brother and my late brother whom I thought she loved the most.  The frustration and yearning almost became a deadly obsession.  Thank God for the right friends in my life,  I had to accept my mother’s love for me,  though it was not enough,  but it was better than no love at all.  Now,  I don’t buy friendships,  if it flows,  it flows,  if it doesn’t I mourn it for a while and move one. Secondly I learnt the power of one from Tochi a wonderful friend years later. I don’t have to be loved by everyone,  I don’t have to be begged to be loved.  I just need to be loved by just one person and the world will later fall in love with me.  Just one person’s love is all that I need to get by in this world. I later found out it is in the Bible too Matthew 25: 37. Now I don’t bribe people to be my friend,  I don’t pay for companionship,  I don’t do silly things all because of friendship and I don’t compromise my faith and principles.