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Sexual Safety Tips (Child Abuse)

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Children take part in an educational game teaching them about the risks and causes of HIV. There are 15,000 children under the age of 15 living with HIV and AIDS in Swaziland. In many cases, these children have acquired the virus through mother-to-child transmission. However, sexual abuse is another causal factor. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Sexual Safety Tips

 

 

 

 

Children Series Part 9[8+]

 

 

 

 

You must have learnt some safety tips from your parents, school, church or adults such as safety tips on swimming, fire outbreak, wearing your seat belts, obeying the road signs, choosing the road etc.

Let me share with you some simple tips that can keep you safe from sexual abuse and predators.

 

 

  • Your body belongs to you; no one has a right to touch you, if you don’t want them to.
  • No one is allowed to touch your private parts except the doctor (your parents or guardians must be there)
  • You do not have the right to touch other children or adults private parts.
  • Do not keep secrets about touching.
  • Tell a trusted adult if any touch makes you feel funny or uncomfortable.
  • If anyone gives you any gifts of does any favour to you, let your parents know about it.
  • You do not have to seat on an adult’s lap – male or female.
  • You do not have to hug an adult – male or female, if you do not feel like it.
  • Make sure your private parts are well covered and not exposed.
  • Do not take off your clothes for an adult; neither should an adult take off your clothes.
  • If an adult or anyone asks you to play “Touch Me” or “Let’s play Doctor” game with you, tell the adult, “I don’t like such games”.
  • It is not right for grown-ups to expose their private body partes to you.
  • It is wrong for someone to take your picture without clothes on.
  • Avoid staying alone with an adult or teenager when you are not sure about the person.
  • Do not visit pornographic websites on the internet.
  • You have a right to say “NO!” and TELL even when the sexual abuser is somebody you like or live with.
  • Though you may find it difficult to tell, TELL or the abuse will get worse.
  • You will feel better when you TELL.
  • Do not keep a promise that makes you feel bad inside.
  • Keep away from watching movies, musical videos or picture involving sexual acts or activities.
  • It is inappropriate for children to watch X-rated films.
  • Keep away from an adult that speaks fouls languages. Tell him/her to stop!

May GOD bless Nigeria, America and Israel and take care of us; May GOD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the LORD lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!

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Has Someone Sexually Abused You? Get Help Now!

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Has Someone Sexually Abused You? Get Help Now!

 

 

 

 

 

Children Series Part 8[8+]

It is never too late to talk about sexual abuse, my dear. Just like you read about Eve’s experience, I want to assure you that you will feel a lot better when you TELL!

  • It is not your fault the abuse took place.
  • Stay calm.
  • You are not responsible for what happened.
  • It is the fault of the abuser, he or she needs help.
  • Telling reveals the abuser.
  • Tell a trusted adult about the abuse.
  • When you tell, the abuser will get help.
  • He or she will not be able to harm other children again.
  • As soon as you tell a trusted adult, you are safe. The abuser cannot harm you anymore.
  • Some adults may not believe your story; they may even say you made it up.
  • Do not worry, go ahead and tell another adult; keep telling until someone believes you.

You may need to talk to a doctor or counsellor about the abuse.

When you report the abuse, the abuser may get arrested by the police and go to jail. This is a way of punishing abusers for the wrong they have done. The abuser may make you feel guilty, but remember it was not your fault.

Make up your mind now! Say to yourself I WANT TO BE FREE, I WILL TELL, THIS SEXUAL ABUSE MUST STOP NOW!

Then go ahead and TELL!!!!!

May GOD bless Nigeria, America and Israel and take care of us; May GOD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the LORD lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!

 

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Child Sexual Abuse

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Child Sexual Abuse

 

 

 

 

If you don’t tell!

 

 

 

Children Series Part 7[8+]

 

 

 

 

 

Eve’s Story.

 

I could not control my feelings any more. Something is really happening to me, but I couldn’t lay my hands on it. I became aggressive to my siblings and friends at school. My grades in school dropped to the bottom. My parents wondered why I have changed from their humble and obedient Princess to a disobedient and rebellious girl.

My parents took me to a professional counsellor. I was really ashamed of myself, because I had to tell her what I have been going through in the past months of my life.

First, it was Baba our gateman, who sexually abused me. Then his son continued abusing me. They both threatened to kill my parents and I if anyone knows about the abuse.

I love my parents and I didn’t want them dead, so I kept going through the pain alone. Telling the counsellor brought peace and relief to my soul. The gateman and his son were arrested, and now I am getting back on my feet. I have learnt not to keep bad secret any more.

Keeping bad secrets can be very dangerous. If an adult sexually abuses you and you refuse to inform your parents, teachers or a trusted adult, then you are asking for trouble!

  • The abuse will not stop, rather it will continue.
  • The abuser will keep hurting you and other children.
  • It will affect your grades at school.
  • You will become unhappy and lonely.
  • You could have sleepless nights.
  • You can be infected with sexually transmitted diseases such as Syphilis, Gonorrhoea, and HIV/AIDS
  • You will become aggressive and disobedient.
  • You could lose your appetite and be unable to eat.
  • Relationships with your siblings and friends will be affected.
  • For older girls, you may even get pregnant and stop schooling.

So to avoid all these consequences of not telling, please report any form of abuse to a trusted adult.

Set yourself free from sexual abuse,

TELL NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

May GOD bless Nigeria, America and Israel and take care of us; May GOD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the LORD lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!

 

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Can You Keep A Secret? Child Sexual Abuse!

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Can You Keep A Secret? Child Sexual Abuse!

Children Series Part 6[8+]

 

 

 

 

Emeka’s Story! (13 years Old)

 

 

My parents had to travel to Enugu to see grandpa because he was very ill. Aunty Esther our house help took care of my younger brother and I while they were away. One night, I was asleep in my room, when she walked in, sat on my bed and touched my body. I woke up startled. She smiled at me and left my room. I was really scared, I couldn’t sleep that night. Again the next day, she came into my room, she touched my private body part and asked me to keep it a secret. I felt very unhappy and confused. I had a feeling it was wrong and I wanted to tell mum and dad, but I was scared because Aunty Esther threatened to kill me if my parents know about our “Little Secret”. Then I heard about good and bad secrets. I knew it was a bad secret, so I told Mum and Dad.

 

 

 

 

 

GOOD SECRETS

“Tomorrow is your mother’s birthday; I want to give her a surprise gift. Please do not tell her”, says daddy.

“Your daddy will be back from US tomorrow, I want to surprise him with a welcome party, please do not tell him when he calls”

These are good secrets as they will not be kept for long. Good secrets make you happy and excited and you will eventually tell someone about it later.

BAD SECRETS

Bad secrets make you unhappy and sad. It can also make you feel nervous. Some bad secrets are:

When an adult touches or fondles your breast and he says, “Please don’t tell anyone about this”.

“If you tell your mum, I will kill you”.

“Or if you tell your mummy, she won’t believe you anyway”. Now, that is a bad secret.

When a teenager plays with any of your private body parts and he or she says “Let this be a secret between us. I will buy you something if you do not tell” That is also a bad secret.

Do not keep bad secrets, it will hurt and haunt you later

If an adult tells you not to tell your parents, or anyone then you really need to tell them.

It is totally wrong for you to obey an adult, older boy or girl that asks you not to tell your parents anything.

Do not keep secrets that make you feel bad inside. It’s okay to break a promise you made to an adult not to tell about sexual abuse.

 

GO AHEAD – TELL! TELL!! AND TELL AGAIN……………………….!!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

May GOD bless Nigeria, America and Israel and take care of us; May GOD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the LORD lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!

 

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Keeping Your Body Safe From Sexual Abuse

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Keeping your body safe from sexual abuse

 

 

 

 

 

 

Children Series Part 5[8+]

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ruth’s Story

I really liked my lesson teacher, Uncle Joe because he teaches me very well. He first touched my laps one evening when we were alone in the reading room. I looked at him with surprise. At first I taught it was a mistake. But the act continued and he even brushed my breast with his hands. I then knew this was getting out of hand. I told him to stop it, but he looked at me and asked, “Are you not enjoying it? I remembered being told that my body belongs to me and I have the right to reject any touch that makes me feel uncomfortable. I warned him never to touch me again, but he continued. Then I ran out of the room and told my mum.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Private Body Parts

Some parts of your body are private, meaning they should not be touched without any good reason.

The Boy’s private part is called penis, while Girls have two private body parts namely: Breast and Vagina.

But boys and girls have anus, buttocks and laps.

For girls, you have a right to say “NO!” to anyone who wants to touch your vagina, breasts, anus, laps and buttocks.

For boys, you have a right to say “NO!” to anyone who wants to touch your penis, buttocks, laps and anus.

They are special parts of the body that are covered for privacy, that’s why they are called “Private Body Parts”. You have all the right to say “NO!” to any adult, friend or grown-up who wants to touch any of your private body parts except when a doctor is doing a medical examination on you. But if it hurts, let the doctor know how you feel.

You also have a right to say “NO!” when a grown-up wants to hug, carry or kiss you. If you do not feel comfortable, you can courteously refuse hugging or kissing anyone.

There are two types of touches:

Normal Touches

When someone touches you, you will get a feeling inside e.g. A hug from mummy when you come back from school, or when you do something good. A handshake is also a good touch. Normal touches are not harmful.

Abnormal Touches

This touch makes you feel bad, uncomfortable and scared. A touch is abnormal when a grown-up touches your private parts making you feel funny. You don’t have to keep it a secret when someone gives you an abnormal touch; because your body belongs to you. It is also an abnormal touch if anyone forces or asks you to touch him or her, say “NO!” to whoever gives you a bad touch. Tell the person “I don’t like it!” and the touching must stop immediately.

If the person continues, call for help and get away from him or her. Scream as loud as you can. You will not be punished for shouting. Get help and tell a trusted adult. Never stay alone with that person again.

It is unsafe to play “The Touch Games” with grown-up or anyone at all. These are games played using parts of the body. Tell the adult you don’t like such games.

Your body is precious and belongs to you.

Keep it safe!

May GOD bless Nigeria, America and Israel and take care of us; May GOD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the LORD lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!

 

 

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Why would someone sexually abuse a child?

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Why would someone sexually abuse a child?

 

 

 

 

 

Children Series Part 4[8+]

 

 

 

 

 

 

Okoro’s Story

 

 

Okoro was 15 when he was caught sexually abusing a 10 year old girl in his school. He admitted that when he was 8 years, their house help sexually abused him. Okoro taught it was a good way of taking revenge. He really needed help. Okoro was taken to a professional counsellor, who helped him.

Anyone who sexually abuses a child has a problem and certainly needs to see a doctor or a professional counsellor.

Some abusers take revenge on others because they were sexually abused when they were young. They may also want to feel what it is like to abuse someone since they were also abused.

You can help prevent these abusers from hurting other children.

May GOD bless Nigeria, America and Israel and take care of us; May GOD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the LORD lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!

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Places where child sexual abuse can take place

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Places where child sexual abuse can take place. Uju’s Story

Children Series Part 3[8+]

Who can be sexually abused?

 

 

 

 

Child sexual abuse can happen to children of all ages. A boy or a child who is only two or three years can be sexually abused. Teenage boys or girls can also experience child sexual abuse. Girls are the ones who are abused the most; but boys are sexually abused too. Do you know what? Adults can also be sexually abused.

Places where child sexual abuse can take place. Uju’s story

 

 

 

 

 

My friend Ify invited me to her tenth year birthday party. Her brother, Uncle Obi (that’s what we all call him) has always been friendly with me whenever I come to the house. During the birthday party, Uncle Obi took me into his room. He started putting his arm around me and he touched my breast. I felt very uncomfortable and told him I did not like it. He asked me to keep it a secret and never tell anyone. He even promised to buy me anything I wanted. I stopped visiting Ify’s house, and told my mum about it.

 

 

 

 

Watch out! Sexual abuse can take place in the following places:

  • In your house
  • Any lonely place
  • The school
  • In a friend’s house
  • The church or any religious place
  • In the bathroom
  • In your room
  • A relative’s house
  • Anywhere!

 

 

 

 

May GOD bless Nigeria, America and Israel and take care of us; May GOD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the LORD lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!

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Child Sexual Abusers! Joel’s Story (Children Series Part 2 [8+] )

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Child Sexual Abusers! Joel’s Story

 

 

 

 

Children Series Part  2 [8+]

 

Uncle Joe was his favourite amongst his relatives. He buys biscuits, sweets and lovely things for Joel. Each time Uncle Joe comes to Joel’s house, he always wants to stay alone in the room with him. One day, Uncle Joe touched Joel all over his body. He thought he was just showing him how much he cares. Later, Uncle Joe started touching his crotch.  Joel became uncomfortable. But Uncle Joe threatened not to buy anything for him if he tells anyone about the touch. Joel did not want his uncle to stop buying all the lovely things, so he never told anyone, until he was taught in the church about sexual abuse.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I bet you are eager to know who can abuse any child. They are called Child Sexual Abusers. They are offenders because their behaviour is against the law.

Who then are Child Sexual Abusers?

 

 

 

 

Child Sexual Abusers could be anyone! Surprised? Yes, anyone. It could be:

  • An older boy or girl.
  • A teenager or even your age mate
  • An adult (Male or Female)
  • A neighbour (people that live around you)
  • Someone you love, trust and care about)
  • People you live with.
  • Someone you always love to play with.
  • A stranger (someone you don’t know)
  • A member of your family (uncle, cousin, aunty, nephew, niece, parents, step-parents, grand-parents).
  • A family friend (a friend of your parents, brother or sister’s friends).
  • School teacher, lesson teacher, coach, swimming instructors, football coach, nanny, etc).
  • A clergy (religious leader).
  • A landlord (the owner of the house you live in)
  • Domestic workers such as House-help (boy or girl), Driver, Gateman, Cook, Gardener).
  • Anybody! Male or Female

However, not all adults are child sexual abusers. Most of them are good, and they genuinely love and care for you. But if you are not too sure about an adult, trust your feelings!

Tell Somebody about it!

May the LORD bless Nigeria, American and Israel and take care of us; May the LORD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the Lord lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!

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What Is Child Sexual Abuse? Lola’s Story

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What Is Child Sexual Abuse? Lola’s Story

Children Series Part 1 [8+]

 

Lola is usually taken to school by their driver. Sometimes on her way to school, the driver would touch her breast. On other days, the driver tells Lola to touch his private body part. She was scared because the driver threatened to kill her if she tells anyone. Lola couldn’t tell her parents because she didn’t want to die. When Lola read a book about child sexual abuse, then she knew what the driver was doing to her was wrong. She told her father and the driver was arrested by the police.

 

 

 

 

Child sexual abuse occurs when someone older than the child – such as an adult, an older child or a teenager touches your genitals, breast, buttocks or any other private part of the body. This touch can make you feel uncomfortable and funny.

It is sexual abuse when an adult rubs his or her body against you in a sexual way or tries to tongue-kiss you.

Sexual abuse also occurs when an adult shows you his or her naked body, or ask you to touch or play with his or her private body part.

Child sexual abuse takes place when an adult takes off his/her clothes or ask you to take off your clothes with the intention of looking at or touching your private body part; or an adult peeps to watch you having your bath.

Child sexual abuse also happens when a grown up shows you pornographic pictures (e.g. photograph, magazines, films or other materials with sexual scenes) or when someone takes your picture without your clothes on.

It also involves a grown up forcefully having sex with a child. This act is known as Rape. Sexual abuse can also be called Molestation, Assault or Violation.

Incest: This occurs when a child is sexually abused by a blood relative such as a parent, step-parent, grant-parent, uncle, aunty, cousin, brother or sister. Sexual abuse is bad. It destroys you.

 

May the LORD bless Nigeria, American and Israel and take care of us; May the LORD make His face shine upon us, And be gracious to us; May the Lord lift up His countenance upon us, And give us peace, In Jesus Christ Name, we pray! Amen!

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